Some days you wake up and just don’t want to have to lead that day. You don’t want to make decisions, settle disputes, organize, schedule, supervise, intervene, grow, push, pull, and all the other things required of leaders. Some days you might want to just put on your bacon-makes-everything-better-pajamas and sit on the couch all day watching TV and eating spicy Cheetos. Or at least that happens to me.
But that is not ok. That is not what leaders do. Leaders push through and fight against the laziness. Leaders work non-stop and get the job done…right? Maybe?
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That’s what I thought for the longest time. You always hear about CEO’s losing their families because they were too busy at work. You hear about small business owners working 100-hour weeks. There are countless stories of people who are pushing themselves to the limit, killing themselves for the sake of the job.
But what about the ones who are not? What about the successful people in the world who aren’t always going full-throttle, pushing the envelope on everything they do? Do they exist?
According to Thomas Stanley in The Millionaire Next Door they do. He says about two-thirds of millionaires work between 45-55 hours per week. That does not sound like the story we have always heard, now does it? Why are we only hearing about the third who work more than that? It’s because they make better stories. Who would want to hear about a Leave it to Beaver style work-week? That’s boring. No. Better to tell of the business executive who is so stressed out and so overworked that he has to check-in to a monastery for a week to wind down. That’s what people want to hear about.
Well I don’t care what people want to hear, I want to tell you what you need to hear. We were not created to run non-stop. Religion and science will both tell you human beings need rest. Any decent psychologist will tell you balance must exist in your life. And anybody who has ever felt the sting of stress can tell you a better way must exist.
You can’t spend all your time doing things that drain you. You have to get refilled. Work, no matter how much you enjoy it, probably drains you.
You have to find ways to get recharged, to get revived, to become de-stressed. [Tweet it!]
I don’t know what that looks like for you. Maybe it’s drinking wine while sitting around a campfire. Maybe it’s sitting on your couch in your bacon-makes-everything-better-pajamas watching TV and eating spicy Cheetos. Maybe it’s fishing or knitting or blowing things up…who knows?
What I do know is you have to do something. You have to relax, unwind, refill, and de-stress.
What does that look like for you?